It’s not 50/50

I’m not sure where the Internet trend started…. Heck who knows how any of these start but I keep seeing all these text message conversations between people.
Ones where they start to say what they really want to say, but then delete it and write something loving back instead. You’ve seen them, I’m sure. They’re everywhere. I’m unsure if they’re real…. But today, who knows?

The other day, I stumbled on one that was between a husband and wife. The wife was letting the husband know that she needed a night off and wanted to see a movie with her girlfriends.
Everyone is sharing it, talking about how hilarious it is…. But I gotta tell ya, it was about the saddest conversation I’ve ever read.

Not only did this husband talk down to his wife, saying she is abandoning her kids, the wife is calling him names and they’re both just being downright disrespectful. Of course, they’re not sending the disrespectful posts to each other. But you as the person watching the video get to see how they really feel about each other.

I’m no expert on marriage. I don’t have a perfect one. We have had our share, and then some, of bad times but I have never said the things the wife said about her husband in those posts. And my husband has never made me feel bad about taking a night off.
After almost 12 years of marriage, 15+ years of being together, I am still completely and totally head over heels for my husband. And it’s because we work at it, every day. We tell each other what we’re really feeling, not use innuendos saying, you know what you did!
We build each other up.
If I expect him to treat me like a queen, he has to be my king. I respect him. He respects me. We make time for just the two of us. We make time for just us.

It wasn’t a funny video to share. It was heartbreaking. I pray you never have to get to the point where you need to treat each other that way. Don’t wish and hope.
It’s not 50/50, 60/40, or even 70/30… Marriage is 100/100 and that includes the way you speak to each other.
I challenge you today to take a moment and think about one thing that you still love about your significant other. And tell them about it.
Do that everyday for the next month, I guarantee you will see a transformation in your marriage and how you see each other. You won’t be sorry! 💜💜